I Choose Love...

I often find myself asking Ryan why people say such insensitive things. His usual response is, "Why do you let the negative comments bother you so much?" I suppose that's a valid response. I suppose I let it bother me because I would hope that I am incapable of such behavior, especially towards someone that I call a friend. But it is true, we hold onto negative words far longer than positive ones. They latch onto some part of us and hold on with dear life until we start believing them. We are already our own worst critics, sprinkle that with careless words spoken to you and well, your heart sinks into your stomach and you try everything you can to still believe the best in people. Someone once told me that I was too much of an open book, that I should think about closing a few chapters. I pondered for days on what this meant. Am I to only speak of the good things in my life and put out a view to every one around me that my world is perfect? That I know no sorrow or pain? If we don't feel sorrow or pain, then how does one truly know joy and happiness. There would be no good days if we didn't have bad days. I believe in honesty, if I want to cry, I'm going to cry. If I want to laugh, I'm going to laugh. We didn't create emotion, we don't make up all these feelings up as we go along, we were born with them. Hell - everyone was born crying, we sure the hell weren't born laughing. Now that's a thought to ponder on. Well, it is what it is, people are who they are - it isn't our job to change their view, it's only our job to show them a different view. And what better way to show them a different view than through love?

Cheers!

Comments

[Tina in NJ]

Girl, don't let the boo-birds get you down! Your style is nothing like mine, and I certainly wouldn't do things the way you are. That said, I'm having a blast following your journey! You are very inspiring. I really envy every one of your recipients; they are truly loved.

[Miriam]

Good for you. And, as my mother says, "Well, poop in their shoe!" (Apparently that's the worst thing Mom would actually wish on anyone.)

[Laura Roberts]

And don't forget that so many times it's just that someone doesn't know what they're saying... or they're trying to protect you from a fear of their own. As Dan says, "just be yourself, Cookie".

[sophie]

I'm with you--I often wonder why people choose to be hurtful, when it's so easy to be kind.

[Charlene S]

I found this post profound because I can relate to it on a very deep level. I don't have an answer -- I just want to say keep your head up. Life is full of ups and downs. The only thing we can do is keep going and try to see the best in things. I try to be the best person I can beevery day. Some days are better than others. =)